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Two comments on this brilliant post:

Doesn't EVERYONE have "early relational deficits" or "attachment disruptions" or am I delusional? If true, it seems too easy to blame your Dark Axis (which is undeniably true) on your parents. I am taken by Alice Miller's "Drama of the Gifted Child" which recognizes the EVERYONE (including parents) have deficits. So the therapy is to recognize that, mourn your childhood, and move on. Too mechanical?

Second comment is more of a question: Is the "neurotic personality" one that is defined by "keeping old wounds open," or is it possible that it defines the stubbornly hopeful personality that does not let go of the Christian command to "turn and live?" That would be not only a desire for those who have hurt you, but also a hope for yourself, that, with God's help, you also can "turn and live." I am talking about the hope for reconciliation through repentance--doesn't happen often, but when it does, it is powerful.

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